This is a debate that I often have with my friends. It made me realise that many people have different perspectives on travel and different ways of enjoying their travels. Some people like to splurge on their travels, some like to scrimp and budget their spendings on their travels.
That one weekend, however, my mum proved to me that you really have to travel as you like it to be.
On that weekend, I only had one question for her – “Are you enjoying yourself?”.
She would often say “Yes” but doubting her, I would keep an eye on her doing, well, basically nothing!
I would take peeks at her when I swam in the pool, observing her from a far distance. She would lie on the poolbed and fiddle with her phone.
We went over to the beach and I happily splashed my way in. She stood on the beach and just watched me play. She didn’t want to get into the water any more than she wanted to swim in the pool earlier.
So I made her answer me again. Same answer. I remain unconvinced.
We did nothing much that weekend. I swam in the pool, she watched. I swam in the sea, she ate while watching. She watched television whenever we were back in the hotel room. Most of the time, she fell asleep with the television on and was fast asleep after 9pm.
While waiting for the shuttle to the ferry terminal, I asked her for the last time.
“Mummy, are you really sure you have enjoyed yourself?” I had meant that weekend as a treat away from the family for her. It felt more like a getaway for me rather than for her.
She simply answered, “No husband, nothing to take care of but myself. Of course, I enjoyed myself a lot!!”
And then I got it.
Does it matter that she did nothing while I played? To her, she got to travel just the way she wanted it to be. By doing nothing.